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内向性格的力量英文演讲稿范文 WhenIwasnineyearsoldIwentofftosummercampforthefirsttime.Andmymotherpackedmeasuitcasefullofbookswhichtomeseemedlikeaperfectlynaturalthingtodo.Becauseinmyfamilyreadingwastheprimarygroupactivity.Andthismightsoundantisocialtoyoubutforusitwasreallyjustadifferentwayofbeingsocial.Youhavetheanimalwarmthofyourfamilysittingrightnexttoyoubutyouarealsofreetogoroamingaroundtheadventurelandinsideyourownmind.AndIhadthisideathatcampwasgoingtobejustlikethisbutbetter.LaughterIhadavisionof10girlssittinginacabincozilyreadingbooksintheirmatchingnightgowns. Laughter Campwasmorelikeakegpartywithoutanyalcohol.Andontheveryfirstdayourcounselorgatheredusalltogetherandshetaughtusacheerthatshesaidwewouldbedoingeverydayfortherestofthesummertoinstillcampspirit.Anditwentlikethis:R-O-W-D-I-Ethatsthewaywespellrowdie.Rowdierowdieletsgetrowdie.Yeah.SoIcouldntfigureoutforthelifeofmewhyweweresupposedtobesorowdyorwhywehadtospellthiswordincorrectly.LaughterButIrecitedacheer.Irecitedacheeralongwitheverybodyelse.Ididmybest.AndIjustwaitedforthetimethatIcouldgooffandreadmybooks. ButthefirsttimethatItookmybookoutofmysuitcasethecoolestgirlinthebunkcameuptomeandsheaskedmeWhyareyoubeingsomellow--mellowofcoursebeingtheexactoppositeofR-O-W-D-I-E.AndthenthesecondtimeItrieditthecounselorcameuptomewithaconcernedexpressiononherfaceandsherepeatedthepointaboutcampspiritandsaidweshouldallworkveryhardtobeoutgoing. AndsoIputmybooksawaybackintheirsuitcaseandIputthemundermybedandtheretheystayedfortherestofthesummer.AndIfeltkindofguiltyaboutthis.IfeltasifthebooksneededmesomehowandtheywerecallingouttomeandIwasforsakingthem.ButIdidforsakethemandIdidntopenthatsuitcaseagainuntilIwasbackhomewithmyfamilyattheendofthesummer. NowItellyouthisstoryaboutsummercamp.Icouldhavetoldyou50othersjustlikeit--allthetimesthatIgotthemessagethatsomehowmyquietandintrovertedstyleofbeingwasnotnecessarilytherightwaytogothatIshouldbetryingtopassasmoreofanextrovert.AndIalwayssenseddeepdownthatthiswaswrongandthatintrovertswereprettyexcellentjustastheywere.ButforyearsIdeniedthisintuitionandsoIbecameaWallStreetlawyerofallthingsinsteadofthewriterthatIhadalwayslongedtobe--partlybecauseIneededtoprovetomyselfthatIcouldbeboldandassertivetoo.AndIwasalwaysgoingofftocrowdedbarswhenIreallywouldhavepreferredtojusthaveanicedinnerwithfriends.AndImadetheseself-negatingchoicessoreflexivelythatIwasntevenawarethatIwasmakingthem. Nowthisiswhatmanyintrovertsdoanditsourlossforsurebutitisalsoourcolleagueslossandourmunitiesloss.Andattheriskofsoundinggrandioseitistheworldsloss.Becausewhenitestocreativityandtoleadershipweneedintrovertsdoingwhattheydobest.Athirdtoahalfofthepopulationareintroverts--athirdtoahalf.Sothatsoneoutofeverytwoorthreepeopleyouknow.SoevenifyoureanextrovertyourselfImtalkingaboutyourcoworkersandyourspousesandyourchildrenandthepersonsittingnexttoyourightnow--allofthemsubjecttothisbiasthatisprettydeepandrealinoursociety.Weallinternalizeitfromaveryearlyagewithoutevenhavingalanguageforwhatweredoing. Nowtoseethebiasclearlyyouneedtounderstandwhatintroversionis.Itsdifferentfrombeingshy.Shynessisaboutfearofsocialjudgment.Introversionismoreabouthowdoyourespondtostimulationincludingsocialstimulation.Soextrovertsreallycravelargeamountsofstimulationwhereasintrovertsfeelattheirmostaliveandtheirmostswitched-onandtheirmostcapablewhentheyreinquietermorelow-keyenvironments.Notallthetime--thesethingsarentabsolute--butalotofthetime.Sothekeythentomaximizingourtalentsisforusalltoputourselvesinthezoneofstimulationthatisrightforus. Butnowhereswherethebiasesin.Ourmostimportantinstitutionsourschoolsandourworkplacestheyaredesignedmostlyforextrovertsandforextrovertsneedforlotsofstimulation.AndalsowehavethisbeliefsystemrightnowthatIcallthenewgroupthinkwhichholdsthatallcreativityandallproductivityesfromaveryoddlygregariousplace. Soifyoupicturethetypicalclassroomnowadays:WhenIwasgoingtoschoolwesatinrows.Wesatinrowsofdeskslikethisandwedidmostofourworkprettyautonomously.Butnowadaysyourtypicalclassroomhaspodsofdesks--fourorfiveorsixorsevenkidsallfacingeachother.Andkidsareworkingincountlessgroupassignments.Eveninsubjectslikemathandcreativewritingwhichyouthinkwoulddependonsoloflightsofthoughtkidsarenowexpectedtoactasmitteemembers.Andforthekidswhoprefertogooffbythemselvesorjusttoworkalonethosekidsareseenasoutliersoftenorworseasproblemcases.Andthevastmajorityofteachersreportsbelievingthattheidealstudentisanextrovertasopposedtoanintroverteventhoughintrovertsactuallygetbettergradesandaremoreknowledgeableaordingtoresearch.Laughter Okaysamethingistrueinourworkplaces.Nowmostofusworkinopenplanofficeswithoutwallswherewearesubjecttotheconstantnoiseandgazeofourcoworkers.Andwhenitestoleadershipintrovertsareroutinelypassedoverforleadershippositionseventhoughintrovertstendtobeverycarefulmuchlesslikelytotakeoutsizerisks--whichissomethingwemightallfavornowadays.AndinterestingresearchbyAdamGrantattheWhartonSchoolhasfoundthatintrovertedleadersoftendeliverbetteroutesthanextrovertsdobecausewhentheyaremanagingproactiveemployeestheyremuchmorelikelytoletthoseemployeesrunwiththeirideaswhereasanextrovertcanquiteunwittinglygetsoexcitedaboutthingsthattheyreputtingtheirownstamponthingsandotherpeoplesideasmightnotaseasilythenbubbleuptothesurface. Nowinfactsomeofourtransformativeleadersinhistoryhavebeenintroverts.Illgiveyousomeexamples.EleanorRooseveltRosaParksGandhi--allthesepeopleddescribedthemselvesasquietandsoft-spokenandevenshy.Andtheyalltookthespotlighteventhougheveryboneintheirbodieswastellingthemnotto.Andthisturnsouttohaveaspecialpowerallitsownbecausepeoplecouldfeelthattheseleaderswereatthehelmnotbecausetheyenjoyeddirectingothersandnotoutofthepleasureofbeinglookedat;theyweretherebecausetheyhadnochoicebecausetheyweredriventodowhattheythoughtwasright. NowIthinkatthispointitsimportantformetosaythatIactuallyloveextroverts.Ialwaysliketosaysomeofmybestfriendsareextrovertsincludingmybelovedhusband.Andweallfallatdifferentpointsofcoursealongtheintrovert/extrovertspectrum.EvenCarlJungthepsychologistwhofirstpopularizedthesetermssaidthattheresnosuchthingasapureintrovertorapureextrovert.Hesaidthatsuchamanwouldbeinalunaticasylumifheexistedatall.Andsomepeoplefallsmackinthemiddleoftheintrovert/extrovertspectrumandwecallthesepeopleambiverts.AndIoftenthinkthattheyhavethebestofallworlds.Butmanyofusdorecognizeourselvesasonetypeortheother. AndwhatImsayingisthatculturallyweneedamuchbetterbalance.Weneedmoreofayinandyangbetweenthesetwotypes.Thisisespeciallyimportantwhenitestocreativityandtoproductivitybecausewhenpsychologistslookatthelivesofthemostcreativepeoplewhattheyfindarepeoplewhoareverygoodatexchangingideasandadvancingideasbutwhoalsohaveaseriousstreakofintroversioninthem. Andthisisbecausesolitudeisacrucialingredientoftentocreativity.SoDarwinhetooklongwalksaloneinthewoodsandemphaticallyturneddowndinnerpartyinvitations.TheodorGeiselbetterknownasDr.SeusshedreamedupmanyofhisamazingcreationsinalonelybelltowerofficethathehadinthebackofhishouseinLaJollaCalifornia.AndhewasactuallyafraidtomeettheyoungchildrenwhoreadhisbooksforfearthattheywereexpectinghimthiskindofjollySantaClaus-likefigureandwouldbedisappointedwithhismorereservedpersona.SteveWozniakinventedthefirstAppleputersittingaloneinhiscubicalinHewlett-Packardwherehewasworkingatthetime.Andhesaysthatheneverwouldhavebeesuchanexpertinthefirstplacehadhenotbeentoointrovertedtoleavethehousewhenhewasgrowingup. Nowofcoursethisdoesnotmeanthatweshouldallstopcollaborating--andcaseinpointisSteveWozniakfamouslyingtogetherwithSteveJobstostartAppleComputer--butitdoesmeanthatsolitudemattersandthatforsomepeopleitistheairthattheybreathe.Andinfactwehaveknownforcenturiesaboutthetranscendentpowerofsolitude.Itsonlyrecentlythatwevestrangelybeguntoforgetit.Ifyoulookatmostoftheworldsmajorreligionsyouwillfindseekers--MosesJesusBuddhaMuhammad--seekerswhoaregoingoffbythemselvesalonetothewildernesswheretheythenhaveprofoundepiphaniesandrevelationsthattheythenbringbacktotherestofthemunity.Sonowildernessnorevelations. Thisisnosurprisethoughifyoulookattheinsightsofcontemporarypsychology.Itturnsoutthatwecantevenbeinagroupofpeoplewithoutinstinctivelymirroringmimickingtheiropinions.Evenaboutseeminglypersonalandvisceralthingslikewhoyoureattractedtoyouwillstartapingthebeliefsofthepeoplearoundyouwithoutevenrealizingthatthatswhatyouredoing.模板内容仅供参考 。